mother wounds, mother heals
what is a mother wound? what heals it? and why do I say, I've healed it.
ON Tuesday March 11 2025 11am BOGOTA TIME - we gather for Mother wounds, Mother heals pt 01
An intimate exploration of the mother wound, a concept that is part of the broader collective discourse on why healing is necessary.
so what is it? The mother wound doesn’t have a single definition because every mother-child relationship is unique, with its own dynamics and unfolding. For some, it may mean receiving physical and material care from their mother but lacking psycho-emotional support. For others, it could involve physical and material care alongside various forms of abuse. Some may experience the complete absence of a biological mother, while others may have mothers taken from them through violence or addiction.
Ultimately, each of us must define the mother wound for ourselves, but at its core, it speaks to a fracture—an interruption in what is meant to be the most connected and safe bond, our point of origin.
From my perspective, based on both personal experience and what I’ve witnessed in the women and men I work with, the mother wound is unresolved emotional trauma rooted in the experiences we had due to our mother’s behavior. This trauma often manifests in both the mind and body.
I remember the first time I realized I had grown up (was growing up) in an unhealthy environment. It happened during a two-week trip with my cousins when I was a tween. For the first time, I recognized that the constant anxiety I felt—walking on eggshells, always fearing I would do something wrong, or that any small mistake could trigger immense rage—wasn't normal. I understood that being told everything was my fault, or being labeled as selfish, manipulative, and other hurtful things, wasn’t a reflection of who I truly was. I finally realized that I deserved to feel seen, encouraged, and allowed to be myself—to rest and relax without fear. “No te tienes que disculpar por nada—you don’t have anything to apologize for,” my aunt said to me, responding to my habit of apologizing for everything.
That’s when I realized, in a way I had always known but didn’t have the words for, that I had been living in a toxic environment. I had been subjected to deep emotional and psychological trauma through my mom’s actions. The moment it hit me even harder was when I saw my aunt embracing and cuddling my cousins—one my age, the other a bit older. They expressed their love through touch, and she was the same with me. My whole body tensed up as I realized I wasn’t familiar with, or comfortable with, this form of affection. This was a turning point for me, and three years later, at seventeen, I would leave home.
It took almost a decade—from the time I left, until I was twenty-eight and pregnant—to heal my mother wound.
If our mothers were neglectful, overly controlling, emotionally unavailable, or abusive, we may have developed physical symptoms—such as chronic pain, menstrual imbalances, digestive issues, or constant tension—that reflect emotional distress. We may have learned to normalize these issues.
We might have also normalized disregulated emotions, (mal) adapting to them as if they were expressions of love or health. As we grew older and socialized, we could have unconsciously replicated the patterns we experienced in childhood, leading to fractured friendships and strained relationships.
It was a combination of these things that eventually woke me up—physical pain, chronic disorders, and intense psycho-relational ruptures. It was through the healing practices of plants, sound, breath, movement, and the space to devote myself to my creative expression, once I had moved out, that I began to metabolize, assimilate, and release what wasn’t mine to carry. Eventually, I understood that my reality with my mother had been shaped by her own experiences of these patterns—curses, poisons—and that she, too, had received little support, guidance, or time to heal herself.
Perinatal psychology, which explores the psychological experiences of the mother and child during pregnancy, birth, and early childhood, recognizes that the mother wound extends into the prenatal stages. A mother who experiences trauma, high levels of stress, or emotional neglect in her own childhood may find these issues activated during pregnancy. If she is under-resourced, it can unintentionally create a sense of insecurity or emotional instability in the fetus, potentially leading to attachment disorders or emotional challenges later in life.
This all can fell so defeating. For instance, if a mother is anxious or emotionally detached, it can disrupt bonding, which may affect the child’s self-esteem, emotional regulation, and relationships in adulthood. All of this is reflected in our physiology and psycho-somatic imprints. And this is just the beginning—it doesn’t even touch on the impact of birth and postpartum experiences.
Without a doubt, my mother wound has been the most painful, heartbreaking, debilitating, and disorienting aspect of my existence. The levels of forgiveness, release, detoxing, subsequent nourishing and building myself up, and re-mothering I’ve had to undergo have taken me to the deepest wells of my soul.
The question remains: how do we heal?
Just as our definition of this wound is unique to our own experience, so too will be the path of healing.
For me, it was my—our Mother Earth who healed me. In the folds of her valleys and mountain peaks, beneath the rhythmic pulse of a waterfall, three hours' hike from the nearest small pueblo, which isn't even connected to water or electricity grids, I was drawn back into the amniotic flow of the being who has existed long before me and will remain long after my own expression of being. In her unconditional embrace, she reminded me that I am all-ways held by a greater love. Mother wounds, Mother heals.
In my experience, healing doesn’t mean curing. When I say I’ve healed, it doesn’t mean the pain, grief, or challenges are gone—it simply means they no longer govern me. They no longer seep out in sabotaging ways, nor do they continue to perpetuate through me. The cycle of wounding has ended with me, and I can say that with confidence. They have been filtered through the creeks and the rivers of my homelands.
I can’t wait to delve deeper into all of this and more. There is no greater alchemy than healing the mother wound.
I’ve done this through the practices and modalities I share in my accompaniment process and in the educational spaces I offer. These include Jungian psychoanalysis, archetypes, dreamwork, the power of psycho-magic, bodywork, lineage work, the formula for ceremony, plant-kin relations, and creative transmutation. I maintain my healing through devotion to myself and my own mothering, returning to the corners of the great-mother body for remembrance. It’s not formulaic; it’s experiential, and we each birth our own path.
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Tuesday March 11 2025 10am BOGOTA TIME - Mother wounds, Mother heals pt 01
What is more painful than the tentacles of divide and conquer that sever our connection with our mother? Whether this disconnection occurs physically, emotionally, or spiritually, it leaves our nerve endings exposed and our habits maladaptive. Call it "mommy issues," mother wounds, or the dark mother archetype—if it has touched us, it has left an irreversible mark, that can be transformed into a powerful elixir. In fact, I would argue there is no greater alchemy than healing the mother wound. But how do we achieve this?
We will explore this through the lens of Jungian psychoanalysis, archetypes, DREAMWORK and the power of psycho-magic.
Friday May 02 2025 10am BOGOTA TIME - Lessons in (Pre) Conception
Growing in love with myself was the pre-requisite for my art, my gifts, my business, my partnerships, and my children to be conceived. In a time of complete solitude, feeling lost and confused, I embraced myself, whispering ‘aquí estamos’—I looked in the mirror and firmly declared, ‘ya no más a las malas.’ My dreams revealed what needed to be shed, developed, and acknowledged. I learned to love the ridges, corners, textures, and expressions of my body, regardless of societal ideals, embracing the freedom to simply let myself be. I chose to nourish myself in ways that felt revitalizing, consciously caring for myself in ways that those before me could not. This self-love became the foundation for my ability to give my all to something beyond the boundaries of my body.
We will explore preconception as a space of endless possibilities and examine the vital elements required for life to take form, both as a new human and beyond. I’ll share practical devotional practices, recipes, invite you into initiatives and offer and bits of wisdom for your pre-conceptive journey.
Friday June 13 2025 10am BOGOTA TIME - Lessons in sex + love and discerning when its the same and when its not.
What is love? The topic of almost all epic tales, telenovelas, poems, and tragic tales. What is sex? The action that leads to new life forming, the temptation, the manifestation of magic…
Learning to discern our desires and instincts is essential for consciously aligning with the power of our sacral center and forging meaningful connections. Our reciprocal exchange of life force energy transforms "two" into a new "third." Understanding how our bodies interpret the fluid information and memories of another is crucial.
Beyond genitalia and penetration, beyond socially engineered concepts of love, we explore the potential of channeling energy towards transformative alchemy. What does it mean to unite through pleasure to create new pathways of well-being? Why does sex leave so many feeling confused, stuck, or disoriented? We will dive into diverse perspectives—religious, dogmatic, ideological, biological, socio-cultural, and mystical—to explore the pathways to recognizing our individual true sexual nature, our ways of giving and receiving love, and envision liberation from shame and distortion.
Friday July 11 2025 10am BOGOTA TIME - Navigating Postpartum: Understanding Psycho-Emotional changes and maintaining connection with your partner during this transformation
According to a survey conducted by the American Psychological Association, approximately 67% of couples reported experiencing increased conflict during the first year after welcoming a baby, with a 15% rise in divorce rates within the first two years postpartum compared to other stages of marriage or partnership.
As a midwife, I can attest to the validity of these statistics and the challenge of creating living support networks to usher partners through the other side of conflict.
Additionally, as a mother and a wife with a supportive and aligned partner, along with access to numerous resources, I can confidently say that this journey is still incredibly challenging, even in the best scenarios.
This will be an intimate and candid sharing of insights on how to prepare for this transformative period, especially if you're aiming to emerge stronger and more connected on the other side of bringing life earth-side.
DATE TBD- LA ESPALDA COMO ORACULO, The back as an Oracle with Juan Manuel of SEWA
An introduction to this modality of SOBADA (massage) that will be shared at our in person training Sept 2025. This space will be in spanish, while I translate to english.
The body, in its many manifestations, speaks and communicates, expressing its relationship with the environment, with situations, with our thoughts, our personal history, our emotions, our ideas, and with the deeper aspects of our material and immaterial being.
This form of massage rescues and seeks to make sense of all these manifestations that the body holds, giving them a voice and a path that allows for their transition. This therapy focuses on three areas of the body where a large part of these manifestations concentrate: the back, joints, and abdomen. The back is a microsystem that allows for a reading of various aspects of the person; from there, we can broadly integrate, through massage and other therapies, a path to navigate different states of the person. The joints hold the memories of what has been walked and the relationship we have with the environment from three planes: the celestial, the earthly, and the human. The abdomen (uterus, ovaries, bladder) is the matrix of feminine thought, where the source of emotion, thought, and psyche concentrates…
Massage is the gateway to that information recorded in muscles, soft tissues, and bones that manifests, enabling the recognition of pain, tension, contraction, discomfort, and other forms of physical expression, in order to find the psychosomatic origin that needs to be addressed.
The remaining four seminars will be announced in the coming months (suggestions for topics open!)